Perception An accurate self-perception is an essential component of success and self-improvement. If you are not aware of your strengths and weaknesses, you will not know the areas you need to work on or how you can leverage your assets to your advantage! Self-perception means being aware of who you are and what you’re capable of. Your self-perception is not limited to just having positive self-esteem. It also involves acknowledging your shortcomings, adjusting how you view your skills and recognizing your problem areas. Adjusting your self-perception about your skills comes down to being honest with yourself. Recognizing your weak points can be tough and may even hurt your sentiments. But, it will help you to identify when you need to ask for help. Acknowledging your strengths is as important as accepting your weaknesses. It gives you the courage and confidence to assert yourself even though you feel you don’t deserve it. Here’s how you can develop an accurate self-perception and make adjustments when your perceptions do not line up with reality.
Step One: Identify Your Self-Image Fallacies
Usually, the self-perception problem occurs because our
misconceptions and emotions lead us to believe in false conclusions. The logical fallacies can sneak in easily and alter how you perceive yourselves each time you face negative feedback or experience. For example: “I screwed up, so I am a screw up”, “I’m not smart at this currently, therefore I will be able to ne’er be” or “This person does not like me, therefore no one likes me”…Most individuals have this all-or-none mentality, that lends itself to low self-esteem. Failing at something can be discouraging, but it’s not right to assume that the failure means you’re not good enough. It is easier to focus on the negative. Most of us are good at dwelling on our mistakes; but bad when it comes to remembering when we got it right. We forget that one negative can not eliminate the positive. Do not let one instance of failure to make you perceive yourself as an incapable person. In fact, such failures show us how to get better. The all-or-none phenomenon also exists the other way round. There are people who think, “I’ve never had any complaints, so I must be good.” Unfortunately, such kind of thinking only leads to an overestimation of one’s self and result in a disaster when faced with a challenging situation. The chances of falling into the depression are higher when you have failed after having overconfidence in yourself. The fact is; those closest to us are usually not the objective reviewers of our talents. So, unless your skills have been put to a test in an arena devoid of prejudice or bias (such as a public performance or workplace), a lack of complaints doesn’t prove your talent.